Self-Compassion Snippets - Part 3
I'm back with the final instalment of my Self-Compassion Snippets series.
It's taken me a little longer to get down to writing this one because life has been pretty full on - but that's ok - Self-Compassion remember!!! 🤣🤣🤣
So far we've learnt:
some of the science stuff about how compassion (and lack of it) can impact our bodies and minds,
why it is just as important (if not more so) to show compassion to ourselves as it is to be compassionate towards others
how to "catch our thoughts" and acknowledge not only the unhelpful thoughts themselves, but also the other things that our body may be experiencing - anxiety, rapid breathing, etc
some relaxation and breathing exercises that we can use to calm ourselves when negative self-talk (and our nasty little gremlin, Boris) start to take over
how to evoke the feeling of "compassion" so that we can use it as a tool when we want to be compassionate to ourselves
We've come a long way!!!
Now it's time to put everything we have learnt together and learn how to practise Self-compassion effectively and consistently in our daily lives.
Putting it all into practice
One really great way to start being kinder to ourselves is by adopting the practice of regular
Self-care is something which I passionately advocate to my clients and in my online forums.
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Self-care can mean so many different things to different people, but at it's most simple, basic level it is all about being kind to ourselves - about recognising what our minds or bodies need and supplying it.
So there is Step One of practising self-compassion in our daily lives - PRIORITISE SELF-CARE
If you are not in the habit of doing things just for you, maybe make a list of things or activities that make you feel calm and happy and commit to doing one thing from the list every day.
But remember - if you don't remember, or don't have time, or just really can't be bothered to do anything one day - IT'S OK!!! Don't beat yourself up about it - tomorrow is another day!
Now, I'm sure that many of you who are reading this find it easy and natural to show compassion to others - and this is a practice which can also help you in your daily attempts at self-compassion.
So thank someone for something they did for you, reassure someone that the mistake they made isn't a big deal, and while you are doing these things, recognise the compassionate feelings and store them away for the next time you start to be hard on yourself. That's Step Two!
It won't always be easy
Let's face it - if being self-compassionate was always easy, we would all be doing it already (and this blog would be a complete waste of time!)
They say that a habit takes 21 days to form. From my own experience, when it comes to mindset changes and habits that have been ingrained in us for years, it is likely to take longer.
Some of you may already be familiar with my story as I have shared many things in my online content on both Facebook and Instagram, but for those who don't know ...
After many years of negative self-talk, low confidence & self-esteem and a total lack of appreciation for my own self-worth I took the plunge and enrolled in a Life Coaching Diploma (as much to try and build myself up as to train to be a coach). The difference I could see in myself, and the change that others could see in me in just a matter of months was amazing.
Yes - I still have days when Boris won't be quietened, and when I allow the negative self-talk or the years of low self-esteem to come back and reign supreme... But I'm human!!! And just because I am a life coach doesn't mean that I am perfect, or that I have everything all figured out all of the time!!!
But consistently working on adjusting my mindset, reframing my negative thoughts, and practising self-compassion has worked it's magic, and most days I no longer have to force myself to consciously do these things - they have become habit!
There will be days when it is harder to be kind to yourself - maybe you are tired, sick, sad, or just having one of those days!!! In anticipation of those days, it is a great idea to have an action plan in place...
Have a list of the self-care activities that soothe you and make you feel better;
Have a few self-compassionate affirmations written somewhere where you will see them. Make sure they are meaningful to you as this makes them so much more powerful
Keep this blog handy to re-read when you need to
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Remember that self-compassion will not always mean just the types of self-soothing activities that we have already discussed.
Going back to some of the science stuff from Part One of this series, it may be that certain things make you anxious, and trigger your fight or flight response.
If there is no actual danger involved in the situation, sometimes being kind to yourself means being brave, getting out of your comfort zone and forging a path forward in spite of the anxieties that might come up. This is where your breathing and visualisation exercises can be used to great effect.
Well - that is the end of the 3 part Self-Compassion series. I truly hope that you found value in these posts, and that you will continue to check in and follow my blog.
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Take care & keep smiling,